thing is this...

I look at my parents m and don't want it...of course it ended so what's to want about it?

I look at h's parents m and though they are still together I don't want anything like their m either.

thing is I don't have any examples of the happy medium and I don't think h does either.

so how to know, where to go, what to do...how to find that happy medium and is h even willing or is this as good as it gets?

LL