WAW Using God III

[pigskin]

Journaling:

Weekend with inlaws was great. Played golf with FIL and then just hung out with them.

Got confirmation that my W brought the OM to meet them. I didn't ask, in fact, I never initiated any discussion about my W at all with them. FIL and I spent 4 hours playing golf without a mention of her.

My MIL was the one who brought it up. She said my W called and said "My friend would like to see your landscaping" (they just had some work done and it looks great). That's how she said it to my MIL: "my friend".

I could tell my MIL wasn't comfortable with it, but she said that "W is our daughter, and if she's going to be with this guy, we'll have to know him". But she described the entire meeting/dinner with him as "awkward". She said "He said all the right things, but it was so uncomfortable. When they left, W got a hug, but he just got a handshake."

To know my in-laws, that is pretty significant. They are very friendly and open, and they hug anyone. I got big hugs when I first met them. Obviously the conditions of my meeting were much better.

MIL said that FIL never says anything bad about anyone. And he didn't say a word about the OM.

MIL had a few drinks in her, so she was pretty candid with me. I sympathized with her that I could understand that it would be very awkward.

When I was leaving, I got a big hug and kiss from MIL, and a bear hug from FIL. It made me feel good to know they don't believe I did anything to mistreat their daughter.

I know I will always have a good relationship with them; they really love me. I really pity them for what they will have to deal with when my W brings OM around. Their cool reception to the OM won't make my W's life any easier.