Well, I just talked to D18 about everything. She took it well and was very supportive. She wasn't that surprised, actually, about any of what I had to say because she's noticed how H has not done anything at all to work towards our M or our family.
Apparently, H has talked to her several times about things. I didn't ask her to tell me what he said. I just told her that he is a very confused person right now. I explained to her that H would be looking to justify his behavior - and to have them accept his decision that he must get out of our M. I asked her to let him know, respectfully of course, that she is NOT OK with it: that she doesn't want her family torn apart and that we all deserve better than what he is doing.
Told her I wasn't trying to bring her and D16 in the middle of things, but they were old enough to act mature and stand up for what's right. I explained not to go talk to H about things, but if he talks to them, they can tell him they are angry/upset - but not to mention the specifics (at least right now) of his facebook activities and so forth that I told them about.
D18 said I didn't deserve this and she was sorry. I told her I was more concerned about the 3 of them than myself. She is very concerned about how D14 will take this if it happens. Me too. :-(
SO... I'm just praying that my stupid H realizes what he has before it's too late!!! Sitting there talking to my children all I can think is, "What an idiot!"
