LostLove ... Here's my 2 cents ...

[sage]

"I never felt that way about you"
"I just want son to be ok"
"I have to put my needs asside for my family"
"that's just the way I am"
"I love you, I'm not in love with you"
"why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you"
"when you know your h is in love with someone else"
"we all just married the wrong people"

and many more that pop back up when h just drifts into his own little world.

LL

Did h say all of those? Or are some of them from ow?

I know what it feels like to have the words come back....it's hard for me to discount what was SAID (particularly since words are so meaningful to me)...but what if you tried to counteract these statements with DATA (I know...more work for you!)...what if you asked h for HELP on this? (BTW -- if you did decide to do that...M&V will tell you not to do that when either of you is on the downward slope...do it when you're both feeling good)

Sage