Hey lala ... I don't have much time now for posting but I wanted to chime in re the childcare stuff.
If I'm reading right then he comes over most evenings, if he's in town, to play with DD and be there for bedtime. If I were you, I'd start by GALing at this time ... you know he's coming, be ready to leave when he gets there. Go to a class, exercise, walk, sit at a bookstore, visit with friends ... whatever strikes your fancy. Also, you could express that since it's important for DD to spend as much time with Daddy as possible, that going forward you would be willing to work on a flexible schedule allowing him to keep her overnight when he's in town (or something to that effect). Whether he keeps her at the house and you choose to leave for the night (what I did to allow for stability for the kids - although I'm ending this agreement after 3 mos as I believe they've had transitionary time and we can alter it now) ... or ... if he takes her to his place and figures out on his own how to make that work is up to you. Oh, or if the weekends is what will work then perhaps it's Friday night to Sunday night ... just remember that "play with her and bedtime" is not parenting ... it's visiting. He and she will both miss out on all kinds of experiences if this is all he's doing.
Chat later, Peace PEI
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