Antlers, you're going through a rough patch and I know things will smooth out after the D is done. You're doing a great job of keeping your priorities straight. I really don't think you should engage in any kind of texting wars with STBXW, it'll only make you both further upset. Just bite your tongue and let it be at least until the D is done or I suppose you could just tell her to leave you alone without discussing anything else like Gucci suggested. You should tell her you're done, you've accepted the current situation and you'll be fine. When we keep engaging them it feeds the fire and they think we're still hurting and we're in pain which furthers their excitement. At least that's my logic.

I know your court date is coming up in a couple of days, be strong, yes it's a bit awkward and strange but you'll be OK!!!


Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again