? I have him agreeing with what she said, you can call it validating, we're just agreeing with her point of view plain & simple and I told dsh to keep it simple, not overly elaborate, let her lead that discussion/argument and his job is to defuse it by agreeing and not defending himself.
It works, it will work.
It worked several times last week and it will work again this week and next week and the weeks following after that.
Basically the idea is not to defend yourself, she's not going to physically kill him, so all we're talking about basically is having him stop his default reaction which is to defend his ego.
You stop defending yourself in these types of arguments and the arguments don't have any fuel to continue burning, the other spouse has nothing to argue with, plain & simple.
