BUTTON PUSHING MID-LIFER

[forward]

Trusting, I believe it will. You have effectively removed yourself from his life.

As far as your D, I would just let her make the decision; she is old enough.

I look at my R w/X as a codependent one in which X became the child and I was the parent figure. The MLC was a kind of rebellion, among other things.

(One of the things I am learning is how to avoid getting sucked into situations where I have more responsibility than is warranted. Or maybe I should say I am realizing that it is not my responsibility to fix or solve certain types of problems.)

Now, how do you rebel against something that isn't there? That is the position that they will find themselves in. It might take years, but I do believe it will happen. And I think that the feelings of anger and stompety-stomp "It's not fair-ness" wind up directed at OP.

I find myself thinking that you're in an interesting situation because some of our kids are teens, and the MLCer is kind of like a teenager. At least mine is.