With one of my sons talking...and talking and talking...my W seems totally overwhelmed by his persistent talking and questions. There were times this weekend where she seemed at the end of her rope. Overwhelmed. I took the kids out when I saw it was getting to be too much.
I don't know how to make an overwhelmed W see the value in me and keeping our F together. I am doing everything I can and it seems when there is something she doesn't like she will say something in a negative tone. For instance, I wiped my son's face with a "cold" washcloth. My W said, "This is cold! Warm it up!" Not seeing all the good I do, only the one little negative.
I think part of what's making her stay is the fact that I help her so much. But I don't want to feel like hired help.
When I saw her getting frustrated I said I was going to take the boys to the supermarket to get milk and stuff. It was raining outside. She said, "You're not taking the kids. It's raining." I said, "They have a covered parking garage." She said, "Yes, and what about the walk from the garage to the front door? They are going to get wet and then go into an air conditioned store." The walk from the garage to the store mind you is about 40 feet...AND the kids would be covered by the little car they sit in attached to the shopping wagon. I had to tell her that I would hold an umbrella over them. Totally neurotic.
Even when I bathed the boys, she had to come in and watch a few minutes. She couldn't just go sit down for a few and relax.
How can I feel like I am helping the M when I feel like I am dealing with someone who can't see the bigger picture? I don't know. It's frustrating.
