I wish I could find evidence of either a PA or an EA. Not that I would be acting any differently, but there's just a part of any LBS that really wants to know what's going on.
When she gets back from her Couples Weekend next weekend, I'll tell her that I plan on keeping the house, and that she should start planning to move out soon. She's put in some applications at the subsidized housing in town (her low income will qualify her) but those have a 3-6 month waiting list.
I don't want to kick her out, but 6 months of this will just be stupid. It'll hurt our kids, who are always asking me why we are always so angry. For their sake, this can't linger.
I'm not being needy and groveling. I take care of my stuff, I interact with her when necessary, but I'm living my own life now, just under the same roof.
I won't date until we're legally separated. Just can't do that. Doesn't mean I'm not looking around, and trying to have as much fun as possible, but for me to start dating 30 days after she dropped The Bomb, seems like I'm trying to replace her, something that will take awhile.
DATE, its a huge stress reliever. The actions your wife is taking will strip you of dignity, of confidence, will even affect your looks. If you don't want to cheat on your spouse, don't cheat. Simply spend time with the opposite sex, someone who appreciates your company.
Why the hell is she going on a "couples weekend", without being part of a couple? You should be there. Are you sure that she isn't going to be coupled up with someone else?
I don't like that friend who keeps pushing your wife to D you. I'd really have a bunch of satisfaction telling her a few words in her ear.
In my case, its a Butch Lesbian aunt thats been the biggest devil in my life. I want to speak to her kindly and softly and explain to her, I have something that she never will. A certain piece of equipment between my legs, and a nice one at that. That if I use it on her, over time she may come to her feminine senses and realize that she is a female, not a male. I will stretch and excersise certain parts of herself that haven't been used in years. She will never be a man.
I want to say it completely without anger and softly and in my kindess tone. There is nothing she can say or do to reverse this.
I want her to visualize, me as a man, putting her back the way god intended her. LOL. Sounds mean, but she has been the agent of destruction in my situation, over and over and over again - building up a huge plug of confidence off of me, my family and my children.
