Reminds me of when my WH said to me: "I can't believe you're doing this to me." I was blinking, aghast. . . what?!?
Seeing Red's insights-- wow!
Your WH IS on a crazy journey that you DO just need to be away from. I support your dropping the rope. Moving to Infidelity is fine, but I don't think there's anything you can do to assist your WH right now. Their advice will likely be 'focus on YOU' and it's true. They might have some good advice over there on how to cope, and that could be useful.
Visits without you? That is okay. Gets you away from his turmoil!!
