Hey Mrs. A - good to hear from you. Was wondering where you went. Good luck in your court hearing this week - the 28th, right?
Yes it is a step in the right direction. I suspect that this process is going to be at times excrutiatingly slow and may not even end up with a R - it is very iffy at this point. W is continuing to make plans to move back in with me, however she will be occupying a separate bedroom.
This weekend was okay - nothing stellar. We spent most of it together as a family, but I can tell W is trying to keep the time we are spending together as friendly but not intimate (if that makes sense). We did go out Saturday night together to play poker at a friends house and had a pretty good time there.
Lately, whenever we are together amongst people, W puts forward the impression to people that we are together and not separated. For instance, we have met a couple of our new neighbors and W talks about what "we" want to do with the house to make it better, how "we" are happy to be in the neighborhood, etc. I continue to just act "as if" and enjoy the extra time that I get to have with our girls since we are all together more now than separate.
I did have the conversation with her regarding the "new" credit card. Conversation went something like this:
Me: W, there was a debit against our checking account from Capital One, do you have one of their credit cards?
W: Yes. I actually got it some time ago and have never used it until recently, it was actually used to buy something for you so that you couldn't see what it was.
Me: Okay - just wanted to make sure it wasn't a mistake and we were paying for someone else's card.
And that was that. Now I am not sure she has bought something for me and has yet to give it to me or if it was for my garmin that she got me for Father's day. I was sure I saw the Garmin charge listed on our other statement, but since I just moved into this new house, all of my old statements are packed away in a box still. Anyway, I'm not going to press the issue anymore. She knows I'm aware that she has it now and currently the only way for it to be paid is through our checking account so I will see any future use as well, at least for now.
I still need to have a discussion with her regarding whether she is actually interested in pursuing a reconcilliation once she moves in. The timing just wasn't right this weekend to have that discussion. She won't be moving in until late September so there is plenty of time still to discuss this.
