Thanks QS... You seem to have a facination for the military.. did you serve at all?
I do agree that exposing is the best route here... He will be livid, but I don't think he can throw you out.
I am interested QS how would the military react to a divorce suit in this case normally?
Does he need the military's permission to file for divorce?
Just don't leave SD sounds like a good plan at the moment... If QS is correct (and I believe he very much is) then exposing him and waiting out the blast to follow is a good route to take.
Find a VERY GOOD family therapist in the time he is away. Do NOT wait for him to agree to go or to go with you. YOU need to be going FIRST to interview them. The first session should be YOU asking most of the questions like a job interview. If you don't they will just steam roll you and do what THEY think is best and YOU may nto agree... you do NOT want that dispute when your H is there. Find a FT YOU LIKE NOW that is on the SAME PAGE as you who knows how to deal with infidelity cases.. do NOT ASK them if they deal with infidelity ask them WHO have they READ on the subject.. INTERVIEW THEM to find out what they KNOW and how they THINK
