I would suggest letting her bring up the next R talk. I have wanted to iniate and I keep myself from doing it. I went out the other night until 2 AM and the W waited until I got home to talk about R. I let her talk, I listened, she still talked about D and I went along, didnt beg for her to reconsider.
My point is there was no plan for talk about R, I did something that got under the W's skin which I guess forced her feelings to talk about R. Every sitch seems similar but every person is different. Hope I made some sense.
