Yeah, BH, I know. I just wouldn't be honest if I didn't admit that it made me pause.

But it's not as if X has shown a twinge of regret or remorse. For that matter, he continues to defend OW in the rare counseling sessions that we do have.

Even if X did show any regret or remorse or the slightest inclination to return, I would question whether he is doing so because he is in a difficult situation, or because he actually misses me. I was basically treated as the annoying person that X was stuck with, and that's a hard thing to get past.

Also, I suspect that X and OW are still an item, even though she is moving away.

But...I have to admit that this situation made me pause as I do feel for him; it also makes me feel some of the loss and pain again.

With all that said, I am also realizing that one person I met is beginning to interest me further.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D