Originally Posted By: truegritter
The latter being a process I have described on my thread and my posts here.


I am saying this is a process.

So

Originally Posted By: Cat
You really are looking at this as black and white...


Don't agree. As matter of fact agree with your entire post (except for this0. You are stating in your own experience what happens during the process.

Everyone is different as to how they move through this path and journey.

Everyone finds their point. You DO NOT fail if you decide to leave your M.

If you have truly done the work. That IS Succcess IMO

Your choice.

And yes it a process that contunues through out life.

I will say again.

My runaway decision scenario is if you decide to runaway from the work, decide not to look at yourself, leave the process before you are through or

Not to start it all.

It is one thing to DB to get your spouse back

It is another to do it and find your own path and heal.

That is the work we do here.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am