Eric, I cannot tell you how much it means to have someone who has BTDT in my corner.
Talked to L about leaving and he said no problem. No abandonment or such in IL.
I left Sunday and yes admittedly there was a bit of "I hope this kicks her in the shins a bit and wakes her up." in the back of my mind, but I tried to push that down as best I could. My main reason was that my couselor and a couple good friends told me I needed to get out now.
I have a pretty big mouth and am an emotional guy. Luckily I have kept my full breakdown blubbering sessions to myself and friends and not allowed W to witness that drama. Both counselor and friends agreed that to have her sitting 5 feet away texting OM was not healthy for me or good for my big helping of STFU.
Getting information to lawyers to draw up today and should be ready for her approval by the end of the week. My lawyer (free through work) then sends it in with W being pro-se (sp?) and in two months give or take...adios old marriage.
Kids sitch is good...considering everything. Tonight wife works late so I can go to her house and sit with them, have dinner, hang out, share a Gino's East (tradition of daughter and me)or whatever. Then around 30 min before wife arrival I head on home and hit the sack. I will be picking them up on school days and have my own weekends plus the weekends that wife works, which in retail are many.
I would say that a part of her current self thinks the kids are a bit of a hassle as well, but hey that works out great for me. I just have to be sure she does not turn them into her chore slaves now that I am gone.
