Allen - Requesting Your Help....

[Quicksilver264]

He is still paying the mortgage for our marital home. Initially, when I threatened to expose him, he said he would put me out.

OK I about died laughing at that. and I AM NOT LAUGHING AT YOU. I am laughing at the big tough Navy Captain that is so terrified of being found out that he will bully his stay at home wife. If I were you, I'd be on the phone with a JAG officer as NICE AND SWEET AND HEARTBROKEN as you could be. Let some tears fly, and ask them for help because you are so devastated and hurt.

Let's just say I grew up around lawyers, and I am a quick study at things like this.

In order for your husband to "put you out" he would need an ex parte order from a judge. Fancy getting one from halfway around the world. I am absolutely AMAZED at people sometimes when their spouse "throws them out".

And just how does that spouse ENFORCE THE THROWING OUT?

Most "thrown out" spouses just accept it and say "Well I have to go, they don't want me there anymore". WROOOOOOONNNG.

I SAY: "Sit RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE and let them scream, say they will call the police, yada yada". Just tell them "I'd like to see you make me leave". Ultimately, it is going to take a court order to get you out. And as sexist as this sounds, a MAN getting an ex parte order against a WOMAN simply is NOT going to happen. The judge will split his liver laughing at the request.

OK so he REFUSES to pay the mortgage? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Captain doesn't realize that it will IMMEDIATELY affect his credit, and put him in what they call the "high risk" category in the US Military.

I am sure he has security clearances in order to be in-theater operational. Those clearances are CONTINGENT upon good financial status, BECAUSE people with bad financial situations and credit are HIGHLY LIKELY to sell secrets to pay off debts.

So he stops paying the mortgage? CALL JAG. LET THEM KNOW. He is now putting National Security at risk because he is 4 times more likely to do something stupid to help with debts.

You have so much more power at your disposal than you realize. It is just going to take some GUTS to use it and put a stop to all this.