What you muse over, I am living. My H and I live in separate places. I am in our home and he is in a one bedroom apt. We are fortunate that we can afford it. We have one son (17) at home. He has seen his Father come home twice and leave again. He loves his Father very much but he says he cannot stand the drama of it all again. We are honoring his wishes now in hopes that he will change his mind in time. He has been through alot, and I do not want his last yr at home to be more dramatic than what he's been through. Right now his Dad and I are together-just not living together. Trust. That's an issue. I have to figure it out as I go. Some days are worse than others. We get along good. We are a family in every way except him coming home with me at night to sleep. We are together all the time with our kids and grandkids and we sometimes have just an "us" night. For us, it's working. Do I want to live the rest of my life like this? Absolutely not. He is in agreement with that. We are taking a week vacation with our S to go see our oldest son. I think it will help yongest S except our R better. You guys are voicing all the rough stuff we all feel. How do we get through it? One day at a time. Rachael
