Listen, he is abusive. You can get a restraining order. And you can file immediately for D or Legal Sep and for fair alimony. Talk to a L = they give free consultations and get going to protect yourself and S. He is punishing you and pulling a control tactic and power play.
This is my new favorite reading on anger - since my H is such an anger junkie - and I tend to react so easily - very wise when you calm down and have the time to absorb.
Here is the part I would like to put in front of both our Hs:
"Discovering the True Nature of Your Anger
At the moment you become angry, you tend to believe that your misery has been created by anothe rperson. You blame him or her for all your suffering. But by looking deeply, you may realize that the seed of anger in you is the main cause of your suffering. Many other people, confronted with the same situation, would not get angry like you. They hear the same words, they see the same situation, and yet they are able to stay calm and not be carried away. Why do you get angry so easily? You may get angry very easily because of your seed of anger is too strong. And because you have not practiced the methods for taking good care of your anger, the seed of anger has been watered too often in the past."
