1. Change your phone number asap. 2. Get a new lawyer if you don't like this one 3. Get legal protection for yourself before you take any drastic actions (such as exposure) 4. Ignore all of his phone calls, emails, texts, etc
He's going to be very busy so you have a few months to plan a solid strategy... Right now you are quite vulnerable :
a. You share the home b. You are dependent on him for financials
Don't want to ruin his career? My dear you arne't.. HE is... the navy just doens't know it yet.
At some point you may have to decide between what's best for you or for him... If you expose you may both end up suffering if you are dependent on him for finances.
Right NOW I think you need to get yourself in a less vulnerable position. Either get a good lawyer who will ensure you get regular income each month or find a good job...
If you expose him he is not likley to pay you anything after that and he will be quite vendictive.
The fastest way to beat an affair is to attack it head on with exposure on both ends... OW's not particulary vulnerable given she's got a rather sleazy history to start with...
HE is VERY vulnerable but so you are YOU right now.
If you go after the affair to bust it he will retailiate before teh affair is over.
