Thanks Silly Old Bear I think I needed to hear that. He kind of makes me feel he wants this all to work out like yesterday and move on. He also won't answer any more questions I have to clarify things saying it does more harm than good. Like the night of the affair what were you thinking? It just happened he says. I said how do you get from point A to B? What, was there a bed at the place your were at and just fell into it? I asked if he used something? He said yes a condom. I said you had one!? He said SHE had one! What does that tell you? She, or they both, had it all planned as far as I'm concerned!
As for the counselor, so far he seems okay. He asked if we were committed to the marriage. We go back on the 29th. Our assignment till then is my H is supposed to let me vent on him and tell him how much he hurt me a couple of times and he is to sit there and take it. And I'm to give him 2 to 3 things he can do or say to reassure me. We are also come up with a time to stop reliving the past and move forward. I'll have to see what happens then.
