I will add that for people new to the journey, it doesn't mean you should not take the steps because you aren't there yet, at the point of no longer caring about the outcome. Sometimes we have to fake it til we make it! Action can bring about feeling, so you have to start somewhere. You start acting confident, independent, detached and hopefully you will start feeling that! "Act enthusiastic and you'll BE enthusiastic..."
However, true enlightment and self-respect does not come until you care too much about yourself to accept anything less than what you deserve! That is where a real breakthrough comes: not just in personal thought and action, but the WAS sitting up and taking notice possibly as well.
The biggest difference in "acting" and believing is fear. When you're just faking it, you still act with reserve because of the fear of losing WAS. When you believe you'll be OK no matter what, you act for the best interest of yourself and your family. Doesn't mean you feel no fear, but you're willing to feel the fear and do what's necessary anyway.
God bless us all during the struggle to get to that point!
