How do I save my marriage to husband in MLC?

[ericmsant2]

Rlay

I am sorry to say but ONLY God can answer that question. What I do know is this….everything happens for a reason. Everyone is in our life for a reason. Every thing happens in God’s time.

What makes me say this?

I was abused. I was tortured as a kid. Here I am…trying to help you. Luck, Fate? I suspect God’s will.

So leave the WHY to God. You worry about what YOU can do to heal YOU.

He beat me until I was so damaged he didn't want me anymore:-(

He beat you because he is SICK. He beat you because YOU LET HIM. He beat you to build himself up. Can he change? Yes. Can you change? Tell me RLay can you? Can you stop being a victim and stand up for yourself?

Now, all I see is hate toward me...for WHAT?! WHY does HE hate ME?!

He hates you because you no longer let him do whatever the Fuc* he wants to do to you. Remember my bully story…well when you finally stand up to the bully they do not like it. That is until the bully changes and then well anything is possible. Anything but first you really must heal.

He blames me for EVERYTHING wrong in our marriage, in his life, in his relationship with his kids.

People do this Rlay. Not just MLCers. They do. They do it to justify their actions. I made mistakes in my M. I suspect you did as well. Neither YOU nor I share ALL of the blame. What we can’t do is make the spouse see their role. This will come to them in their time or in God’s.

H has no care or appreciation of what I went through,

You actually do not know this for a fact. You are not in his head. So do me a favor and stop trying to figure out what he is thinking and feeling and start thinking and feeling for YOU.

how difficult it is for me to deal with now,

Sweetie…your feeling sorry for yourself again. Yeah it is hard…anything you want in life tends to be hard. New car, hard car payment, New career – hard work, solid M = hard work, faith in yourself = hard work, Faith in God – Hard work, dealing with 3 little kids – very very hard work. In the end though, the hard work pays off.

and how HARD my life has become.

Well then CHANGE it! You do know that YOU are responsible for YOUR life – right? Com’on girl. You can do this shi*.

Pick yourself Rlay – F him right now. What do you want in YOUR life. What is YOUR new life?

Oh….and what is my favorite saying……YOUR NOT ALONE!

God Bless,
Eric