Ahhhh this was me! I thought I was doing plenty, am still doing plenty plus more, I'm still tired, but I'm happy and will continue to raise the bar..for myself.
Quote: I had set the bar too high for her.
Replace "her" with "him" and we've got a winner!!
My H was doing the best that H could, but I WANTED H to do MORE I wanted H's bar to be higher so I kept pushing and pushing, then I gave up and instead of making myself stronger, told myself I couldn't and died inside. H couldn't touch mine--mine was off limits. Or maybe we were just keeping track of who's bar was higher...
