Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

I agree, and you can’t force someone to trust you. You can however, conduct yourself in a trustworthy manner. That is what builds trust.

You are right, this would be a good way to bring some trust back – by YOU signing the agreement.

What is it you validated? Sounds to me like you immediately invalidated what she was telling you.

Dudess, you comments are direct and put things in perspective for me. Thank you. I thought a lot about what you said.

Sigh...I've done a lot of thinking this weekend. Thinking of how I have acted during this S. I am proud of many changes I have made but I am still dissapointed in how I have handled some things. Dudess is right, I had yet another opportunity to listen and validate what my W WANTED and I blew it again by not immediately saying that I would sign the agreement. Sigh, yeah W, same old me on that one. Good God, I'm blowing it.

Here I was thinking about how I wanted W to reagin her trust in me and stupid me never thought that I need to regain HER trust. What the hell was I thinking? After 2 miserable years of letting her down I am blowing the opportunities to stand up for once and do the right thing for HER. I have to stop listening to those around me whispering in my ear not to do this or that and instead do what I know is right.

I must stop trying to control the situation. It's still one of the things I need to work on. I find myself defending myself here to those trying to help me. Stupid. I needed to take a hard look at myself in the mirror this weekend. I need to fully commit to what is being advised to me instead of half heartedly doing it.

I will call W tomorrow and offer to sign the agreement so we can get the house back on the market. I didn't want to bother her on the weekend. I'm going to use Robx's advice when I talk to her. We'll see how it goes tomorrow night when I call her. I feel so awful about my M getting to this point and feel so helpless not being able to do anything to make it better.