Where does she live? - She lives in the same area as we do, only about 20 miles away Who does she work for NOW? - She still works for the same agency as my H did before he deployed Is she in the military? - She is NOT in the military. How old is she? - She is 40 yrs old Do you have her home address, phone? - I did a background check on her twice, I have her home address, and cell phone number. I also know that she has had several arrests and civil suits against her. She also has a 17 year old son, who was released after a 2-year stint in juvenile detention. Do you have any contact information on her parents? - yes, the background check gave my her parents names Contact info on her current employer? - yes, she still works where my H used to before he deployed.
What evidence do you have that an affair has taken place between her and your H? - I came home early from a business trip and found my H missing. The next morning, he was dropped off by her. I came out of the house and slapped him as he was saying goodbye to her.
I assume your H is in the military? - Yes, he is a captain in the navy.
Who knows about the affair at the moment? - I think his best friend, but he will not admit it because his wife would hurt him...
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I can help you with this, as I have some experience with it. JAG officers are ALWAYS happy to smack down unfaithful military members because it REALLY hurts the military's image.
I have THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SEVERAL TIMES OVER. I am just scared to hurt his military career. It is the one thing he TRULY respects and LOVES. In addition, my H also has an issue with Porn. Last year, when I found out about this and confronted him, he lied and told me he did NOT do this because that is not the kind of person he is - well, I know that wasn't true because not one else lives with us, we don't have children and I didn't do it. Apparently, he has been viewing porn for quite some time. I think he is ashamed of his behavior and for me to know, he cannot handle it.
When I found out about the affair, I threatened to expose him to his family, his boss, and I told him he would be fired. He said he left because I was an evil person who wanted to hurt him and someone else (the OW). WTF?? I could not believe this - he villified me??????
What do I do? I love this man....still.
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Me 41/H 49 M 12yrs No Kids Bomb 1/10/2010 H Deployed The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are, first, hard work; second, stick-to-itiveness; third, common sense. T. Edison
