I am posted in Newcomers, but I have been reading a lot in Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs and I TRULY respect your insight. There is little I can do right now because my H is deployed overseas.
He had and I believe still having an affair. He left in january after saying he was unhappy and didn't believe he can ever be happy with me in the future. He is still paying the mortgage in the house where I am staying. The oW is a woman who worked for hin before he was deployed.
He told her before he told me that he was unhappy and then decided to leave. We went to 3 MC visits together in October 2009. But he was still seeing the OW. Not sure what is happening now with her now that he is overseas. I have not spoken to anyone (including my family in over a week and a half). He sent me an email to my work address earlier this week and I did not respond. I have not charged my cell phone in over a week. I do not want to be available to anyone at this point. I am feeling so alone....although today, I tried to enjoy myself..working out, shopping and now just trying to relax.
I WANT my M to survive and be RENEWED. I made a lot of mistakes, but my H has never admitted fault except only once that he felt guilty. He doesn't care about anyone but himself. While I had my share of issues, I was never selfish towards my H...I always gave him my last of EVERYTHING.
What do I do to change the direction my H wants to go? That direction is Divorce (although, since I have not spoken to him, I have not heard him speak about this for a while now).
Me 41/H 49 M 12yrs No Kids Bomb 1/10/2010 H Deployed The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are, first, hard work; second, stick-to-itiveness; third, common sense. T. Edison
