I think this whole debate comes down to a fundamental way that we give advice on MLC vs newcomers. The idea here is to outlast your spouses MLC, and in the process improve yourself. To STAND for your marriage and not do anything that will close the door until you are ready to make that decision. Looking at MLC as a mental illness(depression) rather than a conscious decision by our spouses to leave, that was made years ago and they just failed to act upon this until now.
I for one, will support anyone and what their decision is, however I might challenge them and make sure that they are doing it from a point of knowledge.
PEI asked me to read her thread. I did, and gave her my opinion. She doesn't have to follow what I think and what has worked for me.
Really my thoughts are that we are all not that far apart at what we are discussing.
PDT - I have a question for you. I just read two books by DR. Willard Harley "His needs , her needs" & "Fall in Love, Stay in Love". Is this the same author that you quote from? Just curious?
