Quote: So I guess what I'm trying to get at LL is ... don't waste anymore effort struggling with trying to accept the way your M is now is as good as it will ever get and put that energy in thinking you're just working at being ready for when your H does have his "awakening".
and the pooper that I am will point out that it seemed like he had his awakening in first seeking out ow..then upon comming home..being there for me..and making such statments as "I want to be there for the kids" meaning he wants to do more than just provide for them...I remember the conversation pretty well and recall telling him that it was wonderful he realized it now and shouldn't fret over lost time as most men don't realize the importance of their presence in their childrens lives as more than mere provider (not that that itself isn't a significant role) until their children are grown. "when you comming home dad, I don't know son...but we'll get together then..I know we'll have a good time then..."
h does realize this...but as always...it's catch as catch can. will it ever end? when it does (work etc) will he want to retire to some place I don't want to be? will it matter then if he's around all the time? or will I be used to doing my own thing? and then he'll be left the one pushed asside? not that I would intentionally do it but...well I think you know what I mean.
