I just need guidance now on how to handle him since he's no longer living here, we have a newborn and I want to do some 180s.

I wasn't a saint in the marriage myself. I was clingy, always wanted him here not going out, wanted to know his where abouts and a tad jealous (for what I have no idea). I think those things pushed him away.

He stated in January that we could have some time apart with a divorce and then hook back up, date and then remarry. Once, I started snooping a bit more he said all that was null and void. I guess I should have taken that an ran with it but I wanted to keep prying. I was sooooo hurt.

Now, I don't text, question him, nothing.........

Should I go dark even though we have 3 kids? What should I do? He was my bestfriend and I feel as if I've lost a loved one.


Me- 32
WH- 32
T- 10 yrs
M- 7 yrs
DS- 9
DS-5
DD- one week old
Bomb- 01/2010
Separated - 03/2010