Quote: I guess what I'm saying is that there is nothing now to keep me from falling into the same trap that h did...not like m means anything these days...
It means a lot to you or you wouldn't be trying so hard to make it work for you ... and that what it is all about ... you working on making work for you and H working at making it work for him and getting in sync so it works for "us".
I'm not pretending to have any answers here LL. Like I said its been over a decade since CAW and I have been in sync and I can't tell if we are any closer to getting there.
... and to be blunt, as I touched on before, it may not be anything you do that will cause H to shift his POV. It may be waking up one day thinking the kids are growing up too fast or something else that has nothing to do with you ... but when he does wake up ... all the blood, sweat & tears you have put forth to stay here to get to that point will hit upon him with such a sense of what he has been missing for all along, he will be a changed man forever after.
So I guess what I'm trying to get at LL is ... don't waste anymore effort struggling with trying to accept the way your M is now is as good as it will ever get and put that energy in thinking you're just working at being ready for when your H does have his "awakening".
