MLC likely...BPD possible...divorce pending

[ericmsant2]

Lola

I asked him to give me the divorce I am asking for- after the abuse and adultery.

Why would you ask for this? I don’t know what state you live in BUT if YOU really want it why not just file? I think you know the answer to this.

Look honey…you just touched a hot stove. You just reached out to check the pulse. You got burned. Now get the F up and start really focusing on YOU. Start really trying to think your way out of this. Stop giving him the control. Stop trying to manipulate or guilt him to come back. It ain’t gonna work.

I tried this. Trust me – it really does not work.

Maybe I am misreading your post. Maybe I am off base BUT by asking him for the D you really wanted him to say something that make YOU feel better. He is not.

Lola you seem like a really smart lady. You do.

Look at Grits’ question… and I mean really look at it…

What is it inside you that needs this validation from him?

Find the WHY? and then find WHAT is causing it.

Do you some insecurities? Do you feel your not pretty enough? Do you feel your not sexy enough? Do you feel your not smart enough? Do you feel less than him? Do you feel because he is a lawyer that he is better than you? Do you feel that your life cannot continue without him? Does he have the keys to your happiness? If so, why?

Com’on girl dig deep – come clean.

If I am way off base, then feel free to tell me to go F myself – I’ve heard worse. You can better sweetie…just dig.. Don’t be afraid, don’t be afraid to show yourself….don’t be afraid to be….YOU…

I bet what you will find once you get past the fear is that YOU are everything that YOU think you are. Stop relying on H –


Oh…if it PMS…then you get a pass for this one…this one only. I’ll mark the date down on my calendar so that next month I know what to expect from you. Just kidding….trying to have a little fun here.

I hope you are having a great weekend.

God Bless,
Eric