At risk of interupting an interesting debate on my own thread, I want to address a few points ...
I do feel supported, and yes, I do feel challenged. I've always welcomed the challenge, it gives me an opportunity to examine my choices and look for the "sting". Quite frankly, I think most are suspect of my ability to be genuinely making decisions from a place of healing, growth, maturity and love based on my timeline. They're entitled to their opinion.
Puppy, I'm with you re the dealbreakers, or Boundaries of Personal Integrity. I'm not going into the gory details, but suffice it to say I am one to draw lines in the sand. It's all a part of my not believing in unconditional marriage. I have not made any decisions from a place of anger or resentment, actually it's just the opposite. I am lovingly letting him go to live his life, make his choices and live with the consequences of those choices. I need to make choices that affect and protect my children and I: financially, emotionally and physically. Period. How he chooses to react to my choices is his business. I'm no longer basing my life and decisions on how it will affect him, or what he might or might not do as a result of what I've done.
Gotta run and pick my Daddy up at the airport ... I'll be back in a bit ... Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
