Re-Connecting

[Fightingforher]

I'm not sure what happened tonight but W and I put our son to bed together for the 1st time in awhile. She asked me if we could order a pizza and watch a movie. As much as I wanted to say no I ended up doing it and we had a decent time.

It was the 1st time in a long while that we didn't argue. I'm still really angry about her dating but what can I do. This could potentially be the last weekend we spend in the house as a family. If all goes as planned the refi will be done next week and she'll be moving out.

It really saddens me that we've ended up like this. I guess every couple thinks they won't be the ones. Tonight made me miss my W and she was sitting right next to me.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

[DanF]

Sorry FFH. Hang in there buddy.

[LSG]

FFF,

I really feel for you. I have feelings for my W that she is no longer even my W. I don't even know her anymore.

You will be okay. It will take time!

[Fightingforher]

Thanks Everyone....

Today I'm at work and my W started text messaging me. She sent a message that said "SAD". She is referring to her having to move out soon. We went back and forth for a little while and it ended with her saying "I'm so angry you made me fall out of love and now I'm losing my family". I didn't have a response for this. It just made me realizie too that she still blames me for everything.

Why would someone be so concerned about this when she has clearly moved on to OM. I just don't understand why she is so sad when she has this "great guy" to comfort her.

At any cost I'm trying to maintain a level head so I can be mentally prepared for when the moving day does arrive. I can't imagine it will be an easy day.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

We went back and forth for a little while . . .

WHY???


Last I checked, "SAD" isn't a question. Sounds to me like maybe OM isn't the only one comforting her?

You should have avoided the entire exchange, FFH.

Puppy

[TimeHeals]

WHY???

I bet 100 bucks on him asking, "Why are you sad?" to open that can of worms.

And then a bunch of stuff from her like "Everything that I have done is your fault because you suck"... you know the scripts.

[Fightingforher]

She suckered me right into that. Your right I shouldn't have acknowledged her text. I came home and I didn't talk about R at all. I had dinner with son a W, just put son to bed and went to room to watch TV.

I won't fall for this again. She needs to start feeling the pain of her actions

[TimeHeals]

She suckered me right into that.

This is why "I'm sorry you feel that way" is such a good answer to some many questions of the following format:

I feel <negative emotion--angry, sad, confused, stressed, etc>.

Improve your Kung Fu.

[DanF]

Thanks FFH. I'll try to remember this if it happens to me. All I get from my W is stone cold nothing. Ever. It just blows me away and makes me feel like there is no hope at all. I haven't seen one glimmer in 2 months, and the glimmers I saw before that were all BS anyway.

This is so hard. Maybe it should be easier for me because there are no glimmers to give me hope.

Hang in there man.