Hmmm...something is missing from your list...

how he will treat YOU! What evidence will you need to see that he is truly IN THIS MARRIAGE?

I ask it because my stbxSIL's H seemed to just give up when they remarried! It's like he thinks because he came back to her and she took him back, she won't divorce him. I don't know if that makes any sense....he is just not putting forth the effort she needs. So I don't want that to happen to any of us on here!!!
ANd she is just greatful to have him back....not pushing him too much. It is painful to see.


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004