Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

I just keep finding things that have happened in the past that I'm just now uncovering that are hurtful. Specifically the following two things:

1. I found a screenshot of her talking with some guy over live messenger (video chat) around the middle of May while she was in NY seeing her mother. When I confronted her about it, I specifically said the OM name, and she acted as if she didn't know what I was talking about. Then I mentioned the video chat and she SHUT DOWN on me and started getting really angry at me, mostly because I exposed her. She said she didn't remember his name because she hadn't talked to him in months. I know this to be partly true because I saw a text msg from this OM around the bomb (6/20) that said "Are you still alive?"... as if she hadn't talked to him in a while.

2. I found out that two weeks ago, after a MC session, she went out with one of her friends - and that in itself is OK. She asked me if it was OK to do so, and I said Yeah, Sure! That sounds like fun! She mentioned the person she would be going to see is a gay friend of hers. I thought - ok - that's cool. She came home that night and was in a good mood, talked about how she just talked and laughed but didn't talk about the R with him. I later found out that she DIDN'T go and see her gay friend, but another friend of hers that she chats on facebook with sometimes from her hometown. I'm suspicious, and I haven't confronted her about this. I know that this is the only time that she's gone to see this person, because I found texts with his address in her phone and the msg "Did you find it?" as if it was the first time she went and saw him. Through GPS i know she hasn't gone there since. She had been talking to me in the past about catching up with him for a beer. Maybe that's all it was.

She swears she is doing nothing wrong up and down and that I can trust her. No talks of moving out - and today was supposed to be S day. A month ago before DB, this was the day she was going to move out. No talks of it in two weeks since a successful MC session and DB.