A new day ... or something equally cliche ....

[TimeHeals]

If you are making a decision to move on as a reaction to something your spouse did to you or some deal breaker then you haven't healed from that.

Dealbreakers are, by their very definition, something over which one SHOULD move on. Otherwise, they weren't really dealbreakers (or, as I like to call them, Boundaries of Personal Integrity) to begin with.

Yeah, I don't get it either.

So... if I decide to get a divorce because my spouse shoots me 3 times, it's because I haven't healed emotionally and spiritually?

Poppycock and gobbleygook.

I can heal emotionally and spiritually, forgive the person, and make dang sure they are never given another chance to shoot me again.

I sometimes think TG doesn't want to draw any line in the sand to sensibly protect himself.