and i think you are missing another important point.
Beer is good.
and compnay is better. Take notice of DanF. Notice how is attitude and disposition has changed. The ball is rolling. Then it speeds up. Then one day you wonder what the problem was in the first place, because the negetive dpressing aspects of life arent worth remembering.
Remember, beer is good. Beers with company is better.
bro if we ever get a chance to share a brew, I will buy the first round, and I will let you buy the 6 rounds following that ;-)
"Beer is good. Beers with company is better. "
That's a Miller Chill commercial waiting to happen!
Beer was good last night and had a good talk with my friend. Yes, mostly about my sit. - but it was good to get some stuff out and get another perspective.
Since WAW has decided not to come over for usual Sunday dinner, I told my S16 that he and I would make dinner together on Sunday for just the two of us, since D18 is out of town for weekend.
WAW texted me today saying she asked S to go our for dinner with her on Sunday and he responded with "here's comes the nasty parents splitting up bs". She then texted that it was selfish of me, since I have him all week and she works almost all the time.
I am a crappy texter, so I called her and said that it was mean of her to consider me trying to make his Sunday enjoyable selfish. I was simply trying to be a good Dad. I said I have no problem with him going out for dinner with her - I want him to spend time with her. He loves her. I said I can make dinenr with him another night. No big deal.
I also said, there is no need to be nasty. A month ago we were out for dinner, holding hands and getting along great. Then we go on vacation and all of a sudden, we can't even be in the same place. That's ridiculous.
I was very calm the whole time, but I think I made it clear that I do not appreciate her sending me negative texts after days of no communication at all.
I think I did a good job of being friendly and flexible, but not being a doormat or appearing clingy or needy in any way.
I was just reading the journal I have kept since Oct 31 last year. Decided that I would create a chronological summary of events and have my counselor read it when I see him in August. It would be good to get a professional,objective view on my WAW's "come here - go away" behaviour.
Kinda looking forward to a Sunday with only my schedule in mind. Other than missing the incredible cooking of my WAW, no real loss with her not coming over on Sundays. And this is a good reason for me to work on my cooking skills. Since she is taking S16 out for dinner tomorrow night, and D18 is away, I will be home alone. But...rather than just micro something or eat crap, I will make myself something I like.
it's summertime, maybe get in the habit of bbq'ing on sunday, heck maybe get some friends involved, outdoor patio, brews, burgers, hotdogs, ribs, steak, etc.
it's summertime, maybe get in the habit of bbq'ing on sunday, heck maybe get some friends involved, outdoor patio, brews, burgers, hotdogs, ribs, steak, etc.
I do have a great barbecue...on a 20 x 20 deck....with hot tub...and it's a great summer here in Ontario.
RobX - what do you think of how I handled things in the post above (2044195)? Was I too nice?
I think you did good, you stood your ground without being an a$$hole and i think you finally gave her the beginning of an impression that you're done dealing with her BS and you set the record straight pretty clearly.
Question is... can you maintain this?
The attitude you have to have is that you're done with her and moving on.
I think you did good, you stood your ground without being an a$$hole and i think you finally gave her the beginning of an impression that you're done dealing with her BS and you set the record straight pretty clearly.
Question is... can you maintain this?
The attitude you have to have is that you're done with her and moving on.
Answer is....I must maintain this.
I literally have to work at the attitude of being done and moving on, since I obviously still want her back. But, it's been only 5 days since the latest bomb of "I'm not coming home", and I have made some progress.
My S went on my morning walk with me today. I told him that I have no problem at all with him having dinner with his mom tonight. We talked a little about things between his mom and I, but then talked about other stuff too. It was nice.
When WAW comes to pick up S for dinner, I doubt she will get out of her car, so we likely won't see each other. But..just in case she does or I happen to be outside, what's my best action? I was thinking of approaching and just saying "hi" and "have a nice dinner". Too nice???
My S went on my morning walk with me today. I told him that I have no problem at all with him having dinner with his mom tonight. We talked a little about things between his mom and I, but then talked about other stuff too. It was nice.
This is good.
As for what to do when she gets there, my favorite thing is for you to be BUSY. Be in the middle of home improvement project or something in the yard, or be dressed ready to go for a jog or something. Then say something very polite, like your "have a good time!" line, and then go do what you gotta do.
You could also be dressed in a snappy new shirt, smelling of new cologne, do the same "have a good time!" thing, and then say "Sorry to be so short, but I'm already late," and then -- booom! -- you're outta there.
You could also be dressed in a snappy new shirt, smelling of new cologne, do the same "have a good time!" thing, and then say "Sorry to be so short, but I'm already late," and then -- booom! -- you're outta there.
You could also be dressed in a snappy new shirt, smelling of new cologne, do the same "have a good time!" thing, and then say "Sorry to be so short, but I'm already late," and then -- booom! -- you're outta there.
Puppy
YES!!! This exactly!!!!
In the theme of I will try anything.....
I showered, got dressed and put on cologne. S16 had no idea when WAW was coming to pick him up for dinner. So I made sure S16 saw how I was dressed and told him I was going out for dinner with my boss and "some friends". My boss just recently ended his 25 year marriage and jumped headfirst in the GAL thing - more like GAW thing: get any woman. So I figured that was a good person to say I was out with. I would have loved to be leaving just as WAW got there, but was afraid it would seem too planned. Besides, every time I see her, I get all weak kneed, and I don't need that right now.
Truth is, I had no plans and really no where to go. So, I am now at my office (business is closed) and will do the personal finances and other stuff I had planned on doing at home, here instead. It seems almost crazy, but I will try just about anything. There's a good chance WAW won't even ask about me and/or that S16 won't even remember. But..heck...it's a half hour drive and a couple bucks of gas and nothing more.
An old acquaintance of mine owns a local bar. I will stop by there on my way home and see if he is in. It gives me something to do, maybe catch up and gets me in public. If he's not there, I will just head home.
However this ends, I truly will be able to say I tried everything...
