I think that you and I are in the sameboat. The first week is over and we're done bawling and blaming it on ourselves so much.
Were you lucky enough to find this soon.
Reading this forum, most folks don't find this resource as fast as we did and make a big mess out of it by blubbering right out the gate.
Our W's are still mad, hurt and wondering if this is really the right thing to do. I think. I'm a learner so if that's not true then please correct me.
There are 2 pillars of love and they both fit quite nicely into this DBing and DR.
They are Patience and Kindness. Working on both of those I think will help us.