WAW will not talk/is ther any hope?

[MarkIII]

I'm needing some direction, my w who left over a month ago (see other posts) still will not even attempt to communicate, she just stands on the porch when I go get the kids. Is there any possible hope for us?? She will not even communicate if I need to change pickup/drop off times. I asked her why and she said she is just doing what her lawyer is telling her to do.

I'd do anything to reconcile, I even offered to help pay for an apartment so she is not sleeping on the floor at her dads. Or even a car. Just as long as she would goto marriage counseling.

What are some sure fire ways to least get her to start to talk again. We were best friends all the way until she went dark on 6/20/10. Others do you even think I should try and this point? I try and not to push her or talk to her but everyday I find myself in one form or another thinking about her and trying to find a plan.

I feel the longer she does not talk and we are apart she is just getting further and further away. I've tried letters, songs, nothing. I have not sent flowers yet but have taken them when I get the kids. I even told her as she looked at me yesterday I still love and want you.
Maybe I'm being a big baby and just need to chalk it up as a valuable lesson learned and move on??

Thanks for listening and providing your opinions.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I take it you haven't read the book . . .

[MarkIII]

No I have not. Guess I will have to get it and do some reading in the spare time right. Was hoping someone could least get me started.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Well, I asked cuz the letters and the songs and all of that are big DBing no-no's. It's all "pursuing," and it actually pushes them FURTHER AWAY.

Get the book -- DR is better than DB, in my opinion -- and read up on some of the basics. You're coming across as needy, and that's not going to work.

Puppy

[Virtually_Handsome]

The best way to get her to talk is to stop talking!

Well, more or less. Read the book.