Good question, NM! What will I need to see him do in order for me to take him back?
1. Drinking in moderation 2. Valuing me above the "crowd"-- we will have to talk about this extensively in therapy (it goes along with him being critical of me) 3. Consistency with visits 4. Apology and somewhat of an explanation to family 5. Full honesty to me about what was done in "the time" 6. An honest attempt at what we do in therapy
None of these need to be perfect, but he needs to be giving a good try.
I've started planning our recommitment ceremony-- so bad of me! Jumping the gun! But it has run through my mind a time or two.
If he has been with anyone during "the time," that will require more time and effort on his part to rebuild trust. I don't know if it's a deal-breaker, but...
So that's that. He's out of town now for 9 more days, so I won't have much to say here for a while.
