Wife filed for divorce...Is there still hope?

[LSG]

We just signed a paper in the eyes of the law and never had a chance for a real ceremony because our D was on the way, and she says that she never knew what marriage was about, so it does not apply to her. We do have the almost nine years of marriage together and two kids though.

I understand about the time frame for affairs, and it is progressing very slow in the my sitch.

I am focused on me and kids, not her anymore.

I am no longer a doormat, but there is very little communication and no respect from either of us. I don't know how to have respect for her anymore. I am trying.