GAG ........And...on your H acting like a highschooler...Hearts Blessing has written about MLCer's having different aged personalities within them at different stages in MLC...she calls them the "children"...do you believe that your H is in MLC and this might be part of that
CW, yes, for most of this time I didn't feel that I knew with certainty whether XH was a WAS or MCLer. Over the past few months I've become pretty certain he is having a MLC. Last week I looked at HeartsBlessing's MLC stages thread again and for the first time feel like I have a strong sense where XH is now. I think he is now in the early stage of Acceptance.....but I've read in many threads that the stages overlap.......and I am also aware that MCLers tend to duck back into the tunnel when they become uncomfortable. Over the past few weeks I have seen "multiple personalities" in XH. Very weird. When we played table tennis thursday evening we interacted very much like the old days......The next day XH sent me a long, newsy e-mail that was very much like the old H I still love dearly. We went to a movie together last night (his suggestion). We leaned over to whisper in each others ears throughout the movie just like the old days. ..........Now here is the interesting part.... Before the movie, he invited me for a drink. He seemed a bit more uncomfortable at that point. At one point he started talking about how his facial features look old. Said that he didn't realize he had jowls until I had told him that a couple years ago (guilty.....but one of the few derogatory things I ever said to him) and said his first wife made a derogatory comment about his heavy eyelids. Seemed saddened about the aging of his facial features. It was so textbook I couldn't believe it.
Sorry for the highjack CW. Thought you would be interested in XH's overt concern about aging.
