Any previous, since-long-disposed-of dreams that you once had? A passion or something that you wanted to pursue, but gave it up in trying to work on your marriage?
Hey puppy, Yes School was one of them, yes at first it was my wife who pushed me, but it has always been a dream to go back and be the first in my family to have a degree..
I guess one reason I didn't go back was b/c W was also fininshing up her masters than I was gonna go back. I went back a year later I don't know why I waited. (well I do I was very depressed for a while)
Also to actually go out with some buddies from work havent really done that since we have been M and move from our friends from home. Even thought of picking up my golf clubs again even thought I was never great!!
Also the gym was something I'v wanted to do for a long time we have a treadmill we bought in our home but no weights. Just want to be tone and fit like I use too.
That is just a few I been working on.. Do you think it's a good start? I've also been taking walks around a park by us and sometimes take the dog their are many trails. ( Something I never did on my own before and actually like it.) Well talk soon HOPE
Methinks you have both your long-term goal (first in your family to get a degree!) and your short-term GAL stuff (working out, reconnecting with male friends).
Hope, I gotta be honest, when I read your posts, I do feel like I'm talking to the woman of the relationship. That's not a knock -- just an observation. I think finding your inner "alpha male" would help you with this challenge you're facing, I really do. Getting back out with some buds will help you do that, and getting fit will DRAMATICALLY boost your confidence.
Hey puppy, I get it for a long time I did nothing for me and just wanted to please neglecting myself. As I said my confidence has gotten much better than where I was 2.5 yrs. ago.
still have a ways to go. A book I'm reading that Sandi suggested was "No More Mr. Nice Guy". Some of what I have read so far describes a lot I can see in me and how I should take care of myself first. Well talk soon Hope
Just want to say hey, Thanks for all your advice & support guys, hanging out with the guys tonight!! I admit it kinda sucks cause I know I'm missing the family party back home, but going to make the best of it..
Hey just a ? or 2 do you think that leaving my wife alone & having NC unless it's about S is going to help. Are there any thoughts on what to do next to help the M (I know probably not)...
Yesterday I did call another lawyer who also does mediation trying to set something up for next week. (As I don’t know where W and I stand for separation agreement & D especially after our argument) Well off to have some fun tonight!!
Hey just a ? or 2 do you think that leaving my wife alone & having NC unless it's about S is going to help?
YES. But she needs to perceive that it's because you're genuinely BUSY, GALing, etc., and not that you're avoiding her or hurt or wounded or AFRAID to talk to her.
Ya it makes sense I get it.. I'm not to cold even though I want too!! Do you think there is something else I can do as well? Or jut the time factor... Thanks puppy
Hey just a ? or 2 do you think that leaving my wife alone & having NC unless it's about S is going to help?
YES. But she needs to perceive that it's because you're genuinely BUSY, GALing, etc., and not that you're avoiding her or hurt or wounded or AFRAID to talk to her.
Make sense??
Puppy
My wife is currently at this point. She asked me the other day if I was avoiding her. I told her no, but she isn't really buying it, thinks I'm mad at her for some slight. And I guess I'm getting to the anger stage of it, but there's only so much GAL I can do while coparenting our two daughters. I wish she would move out now instead of waiting for the house to sell.
It is tough what to do next but dropping the rope & having fun with the guys I hope will help it just sucks as I just found out my friend is getting a legal separation what's with the 30's crowd.?? I don't get it !!!
Time to start doing for Hope, and not obsessing about the marriage.