So long, and thanks for the fish

[Gardener]

GG1,

Hey Avermont, Read the book, "Getting Naked Again." It's got some great tips and information for those of us thinking/trying to get back out there.

Thanks. Another one I'll have to put (at the top) of my ever-growing reading list!

I've only been divorced 3 months and I did date someone for about a month and it was hard. I have no kids, my own house, financial security, and the freedom to do what I want when I want. So, where will I find someone with the same? Right now I'm trying to figure out what I'll compromise on in a relationship. My life is crazy-busy with adventures and I am having fun with my friends. Would I like to find someone to date? I can't honestly say "yes" to that right now because I know I need to become the emotional "match" for him and I'm just not there. My heart is still bruised (no longer broken) and I just need more time. I have to become the person I would want to date in order to attract the kind of man into my life I want. I don't want any "projects" and I don't want any "2-legged strays" so somehow I have to figure out how to find the healthy guys that I know are out there. I joined some meetup.com groups and perhaps they will appear there??

Frankly, change the three months to five months (and, more frankly, take out the "financial security" part) and I'm at the same place - and feel the exact same way.

My heart is still bruised (no longer broken)

Very well put. That's it, exactly!

Not easy, by any means, is it?

Peace,