I guess I see 3 and 4 a little differently. I think you can file out of necessity (PEI also does not offer legal separation) yet still be number 4, if you are still emotionally invested and standing. The legal process does not alter that. I also think that 3.5 could be defined as detach, love unconditionally, be compassionate, and eventually, when the time is right, move on.

It seems to me that somewhere along the way, someone got the impression that I was proceeding legally? Not so. At least not yet, but like Puppy says, if I have to protect myself for financial reasons etc then I will.

Peace
PEI

Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc