Hope I'm doing this right. Didn't know there was a limit to how long a thread could be. Figured Half Way There was better than Back at the Beginning . . . .
Okay, I think I have it right. Thanks much to Seeking Answers who diverted me to this forum in the first place, and to all who have been there for guidance and support.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Punkin, It looks like you did fine. Good job starting a new thread.
You can edit the post on your last thread right now and tell everyone to please join you here.
If you hit the notify button on the bottom right you can ask them to lock your thread for length and then no one else can post on it after it is locked(in a few days).
Hi punkin!!! Just noticed you have a new thread! Been so stinkin' busy I haven't had time to post much but just wanted to say I love old Victorian houses too! I want to see SA's!!!!
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This maybe TMI, but I wanted some opinions on how I am handling'being dark' w/WH. The copy of the email msgs. was just my informing him that we would need to sign new sales papers, as his Aunt, our realtor had to switch businesses. I try to keep it light and easy. Only contact I have with him is over finances.
My original contact:
Just to let you know that Aunt Nez just called and said Freddie was closing her office - that day. She is interviewing at Holly Springs Realty, doesn't anticipate any problem there. I told her that we would of course let her keep our listing. It really just gives it more exposure as they advertise a lot. I will mail you the papers to sign as soon as she gets them written up for Holly Springs. Did ask that she let us drop the listing price by $25,000. If I have to have the place majorly mowed and weed-eated, will you pay half? It's kind of ragged on the slope down by the driveway. I did manage to finally dump that old stump in the back off into the draw. I took a great deal of satisfaction in that.
His response: Are you willing now to sit down and get things settled with our lawyers............
My reply:I didn't email you to talk about anything other than to inform you about Aunt Nez moving to another business and our need to resign papers. Status quo
His reply Then why did you waste our time sending the e-mails..........just go thru our lawyers then on everything......to include these papers and wanting money for yard work...like you told me before, let them decide what needs to be done........thanks...
I guess what I am asking is, am I handling the whole going dark thing well? Didn't print the entire Email convo. Just the Highlights. All he seems worried about is settling up on money. I asked him if I had interferred in his life in any way and he replied "No". Apparently, any sharing of info from me is a 'waste of time' I did mention that two of our grandsons lost their paternal grandfather. He didn't even bother to mention that in his return email. Or them.
Just discouraging that some times I'm just spinning my wheels here. Any viewpoints??
Seems that no matter how nice or business like you try to be, your H wants nothing to do with it!
Is there someone who can act as a mediator with the Aunt Nez stuff?
A couple of weeks ago when my H was here for something, one of our grandson's was here and he barely acknowledged him...definitely part of the mlc package!
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