The only other thing I would add is the girls are your children and as someone said it is like they are on loan. I understand hating when they are not with you and feeling you are losing time, but this is not about you, it is about them and what they want to do. If D11 has found a passion in doing plays, empathize with her about not being able to do all three, but (if you know which plays are possible) ask her which ones sound the most interesting to do. Maybe next year send her to a theater group. I know around here there is a nonprofit, so cheap, summer theater group for kids so things to look into. See if the church does any little dramas she could join.
D11 wants to do this. STBXW isn't making her so I wouldn't fight about the time. You need to show her support. Yes, you will lose very precious time with her, but allowing her to do something she loves and supporting her while she does it will be more important to her, and that is what is important. There are times you do get the girls extra because STBXW has to work so just enjoy the time you are with them and unless STBXW is forcing the girls to do something so she wins more time...let it go.
Sorry to be so harsh, but it really sounds like you are starting to hold on too tight. I understand hating to have them away from you and I understand that it isn't fair, but as the adult you need to help the girls adjust and allow them to be kids and do what they want to do, not what you want to do (as said above). Learn to listen to them. I hate when S is with H because I miss him, but he needs that time, and today all we did was play wii together. I want to something more fun, but it is what S wanted so that is what I did.
Think about the girls, and what they want and need, not what you or STBXW wants or needs.
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