Being "friends" with a was is cake-eating. Period.
Maybe in your case it would be, but it wouldn't be in mine.
I would tell my wife I am perfectly happy being friends if she had another lover. I would also tell her that although we would now ONLY be friends, that I don't share my lovers with others and that I want her to move out asap..
I would also hope that she would still be my friend when I am dating and having the time of my life living it up with other hot women.
Oh yes, we can be friends. Maybe she could be friends with me AND my new woman...
I wouldn't want to waste time trying not to be friends. It is LOVERS I wouldn't want to be with a WS..
So in my case it would be ME that would be cake eating. A hot new woman or two in my life and my WS as my friend.
To add my thoughts to this: it's a bit of a different scenerio here - being friends - than in the usual sitch, don't you think? Usually LBS is not turning the tables on WAS and dating. I can see your point in the above scenerio.
Now, this may all depend on the stage you are in - in the fight for your M. Still living together? Separated? Filed?
For me, personally, I am not one who will go out and date until I am legally divorced. That's my personal standard and I don't hold anyone else to it. I was given some great advice by Robx in fact, to ask H if he was OK with me dating. I said I could probably go ahead and ask that, and that wouldn't bother my conscience, but actually doing it would. BUT... if you are turning the table on WAS and they KNOW you are dating other people and only "being friends" with them, perhaps you are in a different place, psychologically, with your WAS.
I maintain that for most of us here, being friends is not a good idea. Just my 2cents, however.
